I really don’t get offended by much these days. We could all throw ourselves into an eternal tizzy over a million and one comments. I have learned, in sobriety, to not take everything personally. It is unhealthy. I might as well hand everyone a straw so they drain me of my peace.
When I overhear people laughing at how much they can drink, and calling themselves alcoholic in jest, I don’t take it personally. It doesn’t really bother me. There are so many things in this world I don’t understand, and it is naive to expect everyone to understand alcoholism and addiction.
Yesterday I got offended.
I was scrolling through my twitter feed and came across a video from “Late Night with Seth Myers.” The picture was the duo from The Today Show, Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda Kotb. Unfortunately, one of the staples of the show is their consumption of wine and cocktails while on air, so it was no surprise that they were each holding a glass of wine in the picture.
The headline read “Intervention: Kathie Lee and Hoda – Late Night with Seth Myers.” Of course, I knew it was going to be a joke, but I couldn’t stifle my curiosity and clicked the play button.
Believe me, I am no stranger to humor in recovery, and can even laugh at some of the delusions that I talked myself into. For whatever reason, perhaps an over-sensitivity to the subject, I did not smile or laugh once during the skit. I was embarrassed for myself and even a little embarrassed for Kathie Lee and Hoda. Hoda acted like an intervention was quite possibly the funniest thing ever. I felt minimized by the whole skit.
I felt laughed at. I felt mocked. I felt insignificant…and sad.
We don’t make fun of people who need to seek treatment for cancer, but when it comes to alcoholism everyone seems to be open for a laugh…at my expense, at your expense, and at so many other people I have come to love.
I don’t think alcoholism is funny.